Family Drama

Trying to please everyone in the family is a challenge- we will be gone over the 4th of July this year-spending it with the Thomas and Towner family in Montana this year. Shannon sent me a nasty text message - Just reading this message this morning - wow! - shannon you are way over acting - I’m making a stand and trying to communicate with everyone before we leave town- Shannon you do not need to be disappointed - we are going to be gone! I like the Noriega family and Barbara and I are good friends- she is alone and has only been here once and had a great time- if we were going to be here I would still allow her to come - only knowing you and your family would not be coming till the weekend - they are all leaving Saturday and most likely will not be staying downstairs -there is plenty of room upstairs- I have no control while I’m gone who sleeps where- Shannon don’t be mad! It is unneeded stress - we are not going to always be here and you are going to have to communicate with your sisters in a nice way - being defensive is not going to help the situation- I text Ryan because he told me too last year - to coordinate with him- you and your family are welcome anytime - I let Shar know that you would be coming up and to communicate to Ryan your arrival - she kindly text back - “I will make sure things are tidy and ready for them when they arrive”- you have to communicate ! Makes me really sad you are acting this way and pushing your Mother away-

Shannon’s Text to me - Ok Now I’m actually so disappointed and so disgusted with all of this .. This is absolute Bull shit Mom and you know it .. I just saw your text to Ryan .. 

Hell No I won’t be checking in with Shar and Dave or Trisha and Buck in fact .. You can tell Shar and Dave that they can stay up stairs and Absolutely do not use my bedroom or the bathroom downstairs they can stay upstairs .I don’t want any of them sleeping in my bed. I deserve my health and my own boundaries you know I get very sick around vaccinated people it affects me negatively .. I have been nothing but honest about our plans for the 4 of July weekend but this is just another level it’s unbelievable unfair … 

The fact that they even think its even OK the entitlement that they have is on another level I would never dream of doing such a thing The entitlement .. But then again I would never think I had the right to demanded or pressure you to cut off one of your daughters and her children from the family they are disgusting..don’t know why you and Dad can’t make up your minds and just be honest with everybody and set real boundaries with everyone you can certainly do it to me and my kids that’s for sure !!. I’m so done I’m so tired of being bullied by SHAR and Trisha I’m over it . I’m so hurt by you Mom I deserve better from you -you have cut me deep tonight . If you want me to tell SHAR where to go, I have no problem doing that -If you wanna wash your hands of me our feelings my kids feels that’s fine . I can do that trust me it won’t be pretty but I have no problem telling her where to go . PS-please don’t call me I’m done with this conversation I have better things to do with my time and energy it’s my Daughters Birthday tomorrow and I need her to have all of my attention tomorrow . Thanks for the honesty…

so with that said - she is way overacting- They are leaving Sunday to go to Las Vegas for three days and won’t be back home until Wednesday evening- and then turn around and come up to the lake on Friday for the 4th of July- I really don’t see happening. Shannon does not hold up to that much traveling- just coming to the lake is hard on her and then adding their trip to Vegas a few days before- if they do come -Noriega's will be all gone by Saturday and even if they are there there is plenty of room - the means word is what is so hurtful - talk about entitlement! It’s our lake home and I can do as I please- we have made it available to all family we just need to communicate. This is what Shannon is terrible about- she will not communicate- that is why I sent a text to Ryan that if they do come to let Shar know their arrival time- Shar has done nothing wrong- Shannon is being really mean as far as I’m concerned- and terrible in speaking to me the way! She is over acting the situation. It is our family lake home and a place to gather as family. Just want peace and Harmony! It blew up last summer with her and Trisha trying to talk out their differences and I’m caught in the middle of it. They both have not been back To the lake since last year for the 4th 2024. It has been an entire year and would think she would be grateful to even have a place to go- a blessing we are providing as her parents- it is costing them nothing- I just throw my hands up in the air! Shannon is being so difficult!