Shannon’s Drama

It doesn’t end the drama with Shannon - I have tired to not let it upset me. She sent her mean unreasonable text on June 27th when I was trying to communicate with her and Ryan family plans over the 4th of July- she has her blow up that her Sister Sharlena is coming to our lake home while we are gone on the 4th to Montana with the Thomas and Towner family- an offended that they are bringing Noriega’s family. I felt it was just fine with us being gone and there is plenty of room for both families. I knew with Shannon going to Las Vegas for 4 days and the. Turning around and coming to the lake in two days was not a real reality with her track record- but if they did come I wanted to let her know the Noriega’s would be there from July 2-5. Trisha and her family were staying at another cabin with Buck’s brother and his family. We were not even going to be there. Well she has not responded to us at all since June 27th. I have felt she way over acted and felt that Noriega family did nothing wrong on their part in coming to the lake over the 4th- Shannon could have and made it nice for her family if she wish to- but no she has been stand off and no communication. I couldn’t believe that she didn’t come to the family birthday party we hosted on July 25th for all to come. Stacy flew in spent three days with us- Shar ,Trisha and Natasha came with their families and very helpful I. Helping me host the party. Shannon response was nothing - no show and not even a note to her dad. I feel this is very disrespectful on her part and again she is the victim. She is excluding herself from us- which is very sad we all miss her. She doesn’t even try. She has got to get rid of her resentment that are so unneeded- I try to get them to come up and spend time with Landon and his friends some time this summer and still no response- Ryan did text Craig to let him know they would not be coming to the party- Well Landon just came up for Raspberry weekend with five of his friends. They stayed 4 full days and still no response from Shannon- no thank you for entertaining them- she showed no interest- still withdrawing herself for the entire summer season. I feel bad little Ashtyn has been excluded from the lake the summer and missed out spending time with her cousin her age. she would have had a great time. Shannon did text us on Monday a week ago that Landon fractured his hand and most likely would not be coming up with his friends- Landon texted back a day later and said he was still coming up which they did. The kids were really good and we did enjoy having them. Well today I received a texted from Shannon finally - which I knew she would when she wanted something from us! Hey mom Are you still going to be able to watch Ashtyn and Landon when we go on our trip ?? It’s exactly a month away from today . Just checking in with you . ?? Well with no contact all summer I totally forgot that I said I would baby sit for them in September 14-21st while they go to Cancun for their anniversary! She asked me back in May- I told her I would love to- I don’t get to spend much time with Ashtyn. I planned an Alaskan cruise for Craig and wanted to surprised Craig for his birthday this year. It is something he has always wanted to do. In planning it -the travel guide suggested this very week- I had totally forgot that I would watch Ashtyn. When I realized the mistake - I knew Shannon would be furious with me and just shut us out even more. I really felt sad I planned the same week - and dreading having to tell her I was not able to watch Ashtyn the same week they had planned- I figured they could make other arrangement- giving her notice we could not babysit while they were gone. I have always been there to watch the kids- I had my melt down in June because we didn’t plan anything for our anniversary this year- we haven’t been on a trip for over 8 years. We are not getting any younger and Craig’s health is not very good. With him turning 70 this year we need to plan some trips in the next 10 years or we are going to be to mild to travel. I’m already feeling like we have missed our window the past 9 years hanging out at the lake. It was exciting to surprise Craig with our trip to Alaska in September- well the happy bubble didn’t last long when Shannon texted me today asking me if I was still planning on watching Ashtyn? I responded -No -you will have to make other arrangements- for Dads birthday we are leaving on the 13 of September for an Alaskan cruise - it has been on his bucket list to do for many years and we are not getting any younger - sorry I will miss watching her! I knew she would not be happy about it but I have already paid for the trip and felt we deserve this time away for us. We have spent so much time watching our Grankids over the years while our adult children are traveling the world. Well Shannon responded back in an angry rage- You are so conditional so Evil for this one .. I can’t even imagine doing anything like this  to any of my kids  My grandchildren… I hoped some time could would help us and we could be mature adult and come to a place where we could air out our differences and the hurt feelings   And admit when you hurt people’s feelings . Especially the ones you claim to love but you clearly can’t do that your   .  I will NEVER Forgive you for this one … 

I will never ever ask you for  anything Ever agin you are unbelievably cruel…   You much more like your mother than you even know .. Have a nice life . I’ll let Ashtyn know how much you think of her … 

I’m heart sick about it - it was not intentional on my part! Ryan texted Craig back - saying -Hi Craig and Debbie. Shannon let me know you guys are no longer able to watch Ash during our Mexico trip in Sept. I’m hoping this was a lapse in memory on Debbie’s part, but if this is in retaliation for not showing up to the lake last month then I think we need to get together and try and mend things as the last thing I want is for us to end up in an estranged relationship. I love you guys, hope to hear back soon.

Craig texted back - Ryan, it was a total lapse in memory. She forgot that she had said that she could watch Ash. It had nothing to do with you guys not being able to make it up for my Birthday. We realize that with the distance to the lake it’s just not feasible at times. I didn’t know any thing about the surprise trip until last Sunday. We have been trying hard to find a time to get away for the last few years. We are getting older “ don’t like to think about it”and need to do things before we are not able. We love watching Ash, and have always done our very best to accommodate over the years. We are sorry the mix up.

Ryan responses back - HI Craig thanks for the update. Us not making it up last month had nothing to do with distance, and everything to do with Shannon and Debbie feuding, which was why I questioned if it was intentional, but glad to hear it wasn’t. I really wished we could have made it to the party but Shannon is stubborn. I’m very happy to hear you guys are getting out to travel again, as I’m on the same page of we aren’t getting any younger! The timing is just bad. We have a financial stake involved which is non-refundable, and Shannon doesn’t trust anyone else with the kids. Anyways, I’m not asking for you guys to make any changes to your travel plans. This is more of me just expressing the bind that we’ve been put in. We’ll figure something out, and wish you guys a terrific experience up in Alaska.

At least Ryan sound reasonable - and I know put them in a bind - which I feel sorry about and disappointed too. They do have a month to figure something out- they have the older boys still leaving at home. So I would think they could work something out with them or their girlfriends who they are dating. Landon is a senior in High school now and really he would be able to manage it. We left our girls incharge a few time when they were this age- so now the I’m in a deeper hole with Shannon - she is just way over reacting and being very unreasonable. I’m tired! And tired of her attaching me- she has been missed and just keeps pushing us further away acting like she is a victim to her parents cruel behavior when it is further from the truth!!